As a wedding Officiate I get asked all sort of questions by  bridal couples in regards to their ceremony.  However the top question asked is how do I write my vows?   What should I say?    How do I start?

While the speaking of vows are an important part of the ceremony it is really the most effortless part to create because it comes from the heart. 

I tell my couples to think of the vows as a promise to each other.  What do you promise to bring into this relationship? What drew you to your spouse to be?  What do you think is important to your future spouse, in which you want to confirm ,with a promise that you are going to full fill in this marriage?

Because that really is what vows are, a confirmation of your love and  support.

They are a declaration of Intention, below is prelude that I  use right before the  couple recite  their vows to each other.

Before the exchange of Vows.

The vows through which you will accept each other as husband and wife have no hidden power within them. Only to the extent that they express in words your continuing intention and commitment do they have meaning. And in a world where the pressures pushing people apart will sometimes feel stronger than those drawing people together, your commitment to one another will need to be creatively re-expressed in many different ways in the coming days and years.  The expression in today’s vows is an important and visible milestone in your journey together.

Speak from your heart but sometimes expressing oneself is a challenge .  If that is the case then do some research and find a poem or verse that  fits what your heart is feeling.   It might take a bit of energy and time but its worth it.