Last week, I performed a wedding for a couple in their mid-forties. The bride was divorced with two children and the groom was widowed with one child, a young lady of 14 years.
The groom’s daughter requested to do a reading during the ceremony to help blend the two families. Both bride and groom agreed. She told me they were not privy to what she chose and prepared her diction and tone for days before the ceremony.
The piece she chose to read was given to her by her mother before she died of cancer. It was her mother’s favorite quote.
This is what she read.
“So live your life that the fear of death can never enter your heart. Trouble no one about their religion; respect others in their view, and demand that they respect yours. Love your life, perfect your life, and beautify all things in your life. Seek to make your life long and its purpose in the service of your people.
Prepare a noble death song for the day when you go over the great divide. Always give a word or a sign of salute when meeting or passing a friend, even a stranger, when in a lonely place. Show respect to all people and grovel to none. When you arise in the morning give thanks for the food and for the joy of living. If you see no reason for giving thanks, the fault lies only in yourself. Abuse no one and nothing, for abuse turns the wise ones to fools and robs the spirit of its vision. When it comes your time to die, be not like those whose hearts are filled with the fear of death, so that when their time comes they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way. Sing your death song and die like a hero going home.” Tecumseh Shawnee Chief.
I think it has just become my favorite quote.